“I hope you could've been open to solutions first before asking to be removed from Basecamp and declaring that it’s not for you.”
It was almost dawn and I was still in front of my desktop, staring at the possibly condescending note I just received… and slightly regretting – just for a second – that I was an introvert allergic to constant communication.
I was busy sifting through a multitude of messages that flooded my inbox while I was on vacation when I finally got to that one email that echoed the world’s reaction to people saying no to what I call “tech pressure”. It also reminded me that as someone whose work depended on the internet, I loved being online –
– And I hated it.
My potentially pathologic, love-hate relationship with the internet isn’t unique. Ask the many people whose loved ones are addicted to Facebook and they’ll tell you how much social media is ruining their lives… while they type about their hatred for Facebook on the very platform they despise.
Yes, the paradox is strong.
But so is the need to resurface from the flood of technology, lest I drown in it.
I realized that learning to untangle myself from the web – pun not intended – started with one skill: the ability to say no. So, at 4 in the morning, I stuck to my “no”. And I had to live with the consequences, including a rather disappointed, arguably upset message that told me I wasn’t “open to solutions”.